SKANEATELES | On Tuesday, Jan. 26, 2016, Bob Gray finished his final round of golf and entered God’s great Club House. He played strong and courageous right through the final 18th hole. It was the best round of golf he ever played.
Bob’s great golf game started in Mottville, where he was born, and finished in Skaneateles, where Bob lived, loved, and served. Bob’s zest for life showed in his service to the community, dedication to his career, and his love for his family. He served from 1970-76 in the U.S. Army Reserves and subsequently joined the Valentine Meyer Post 317 and the Robert Hydon Post 239. He was an honorary member of the Skaneateles Fire Department, a life member of the Mons. Meany Knights of Columbus Council, and was past president and 25-year board member of the Lake View Cemetery Board. He was a longtime communicant of St. Mary’s of the Lake Church.
The career path Bob chose was well suited to his patience, gentlemanly nature, and his true sense of compassion. He graduated from Simmons School of Embalming in 1968 and served on the Military Honor Guard in the Reserves while he worked as a funeral director in Skaneateles. He established the Robert D. Gray Funeral Home in 1975 and the Gray House Bed & Breakfast in 1990. He was a member and past president of the Onondaga-Oswego Funeral Directors Association.
Life was full for Bob; he played in the Joe Curtis Softball League well into his 60s, he enjoyed meeting the guys at the Wednesday Night bowling league in Marcellus, playing cards in the Amber Pitch League, walking down to breakfast at Johnny’s with the guys from Table 6; traveling with his family to many parts of the country and to Ireland and Scotland, and played golf with friends and family. The game of golf gave Bob time to spend with his son, son-in-law, grandson, daughters, and friends. Family was central to all that Bob did in his life; and the focal point for the past 45 years was his wife, Val. Together they raised a family, operated a business, and traveled extensively.
Their family includes two daughters, Pamela (Gary) Anastasio, and Kristin Gray; his son, Rob (Leanne); his mother, Mary Gray; his brother, Thomas (Kathy); his sisters, Mary Ann (Rick) Barletta, Pat (Ted) Corwin, and Joanne (Eric) Tills; grandchildren, Tyler and Laura Anastasio, Robby IV, Matthew, and Connor, and several cousins, nieces, and nephews.
He was predeceased by his father, Robert D. Gray Sr. in 1992.
The Gray family greatly appreciates all of the thoughts, prayers, cards, and acts of kindness they have received over the past 19 months.
The funeral mass will be held at 10 a.m. Saturday in St. Mary’s of the Lake Church. Private burial will be in St. Mary’s Cemetery, Skaneateles. Calling hours are from 2 to 8 p.m. Friday at Bob’s funeral home, 49 Jordan St., Skaneateles.
In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Fr. Peter Major Mill Hill Missionaries - African Missions, c/o Mill Hill House, 222 W. Hartsdale Ave., Hartsdale, NY 10530-1667, or Cancer Connects, 5008 Brittonfield Parkway, Suite 800, East Syracuse, NY 13057.
Online condolences can be sent to www.robertdgrayfuneralhome.com.